Language – A Shared Tool, Yet a Private Meaning
Language is our means of expression and communication. Yet for each of us, words carry deeply personal meanings.
The same word, the same sentence — once filtered through one’s experiences, memories, emotions, and pain — no longer holds the same sense.
One may say “I’m fine” to hide their wounds.
Another says “I’m fine” because they truly are.
And someone else says “I’m fine” as a quiet way to end the conversation.
“Each of us receives any general or abstract idea in the context of our own individual mind.” – Carl Gustav Jung
Because of this, we never truly share the same meaning for concepts we assume everyone understands.
“Love” for one person means freedom; for another, it means devotion.
“Success” might be fame, or simply living in alignment with oneself.
“Wealth” can be material, or just a sense of sufficiency.
“Happiness” may be peaceful calm, or moments of wild intensity.
Even those raised in the same culture, speaking the same language, can understand these ideas completely differently — because each carries an inner universe of their own.
When we forget this, we fall into judgment:
“Why don’t they think like me?”
“Why would they choose that?”
But when we remember that everyone lives within their own mental map, we begin to communicate with curiosity and compassion, instead of trying to make others mirror our perspective.
Language is a shared tool, yet we don’t speak the same inner language. Every word that leaves a person’s mouth carries the imprint of their history — the experiences that shaped how they love, fear, trust, and respond.
That’s why communication is not merely about speaking or listening.
It’s the art of understanding the inner world behind the words — the ability to pause and ask:
“What does this word mean to you?”
“When you say that, what are you feeling?”
Only when we are patient enough to learn each other’s personal language does true connection begin — not just through words, but through presence.
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