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Attachment Styles: The Invisible Compass in Every Relationship

Before a person enters any relationship, whether it is a conventional love or a Dominant/submissive (D/s) dynamic, they carry with them an internal map formed from their early years. This map determin...

Jul 21, 2026

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Why do I love myself more the more I play BDSM?

Many people exploring BDSM often ask: why do many feel they love themselves more than ever the deeper they dive into BDSM? This is not just a story about kink, but a journey of healing, empowerment, a...

Jul 20, 2026

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Health & Physical Well-being

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What is a Sissy? How to know if you are a Sissy?

Recently I received a very interesting question from a member of the community: "Has the Mistress ever trained a sissy? How does the Mistress know that person is a sissy and help them realize they are...

Jul 19, 2026

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Early signs that you may be interested in BDSM

In the world of BDSM, many people begin their journey without even realizing it. They just feel a little curious, a strange sensation when reading a story, watching a movie, or in private moments. As ...

Jul 16, 2026

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BDSM 101

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Consent exists not only in BDSM

Consent exists not only in BDSM When it comes to Consent, many people will immediately think of BDSM or sex. This is not wrong, but it is also not complete. In fact, Consent is a communication skill a...

Jul 14, 2026

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BDSM Community & Culture

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The most dangerous Red Flag is not jealousy. It is when someone does not respect your Consent and boundaries.

How do we usually identify Red Flags? When it comes to Red Flags in a relationship, most people will immediately think of fairly obvious signs like excessive jealousy, control, manipulation, anger, or...

Jul 14, 2026

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You are not stuck in your relationship. You are stuck in patterns that you have not recognized.

Have you ever felt like everything keeps repeating? You feel anxious, overthink, frustrated, unheard, or no longer happy in your relationship. You realize something is wrong, but then everything conti...

Jul 10, 2026

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Balancing love and BDSM in a D/s relationship

One of the most common questions I receive from those new to BDSM is: "If there is an element of power and submission in the relationship, does love still exist?" Or sometimes the opposite question: "...

Jul 4, 2026

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BDSM 101

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5 Mistakes in BDSM That Can Cause Dynamics to Gradually Lose Connection

BDSM is not about who plays their role better. It’s not about who can endure more or who can go further in their experiences. A sustainable dynamic is often built on communication, curiosity, adaptabi...

Jun 29, 2026

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The risk of 'losing oneself' for a Submissive: Absolute trust or self-destruction?

In the world of BDSM, the role of a Submissive is not just about willful submission, but also a profound journey of body and soul. When you place absolute trust in a Dominant, when you allow yourself ...

Jun 28, 2026

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Recovery after BDSM: Aftercare is not just cuddling – It is the rebirth of body and mind

When it comes to BDSM, people often ask each other about techniques, pain thresholds, or dramatic power exchange contracts. But rarely does anyone ask: "What will you do when the lights go out, when t...

Jun 25, 2026

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Top, Bottom, Versatile: Which type are you in BDSM and how to find your position?

In the vast and colorful world of BDSM, learning about roles is one of the first steps for you to explore yourself and connect with others. You may have heard terms like Top, Bottom, or Versatile, but...

Jun 23, 2026

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